Staying Motivated When The Couch Looks Better

The weather the last couple of days has been cold, windy and rainy. Not the ideal combination for running outside. We are far from wimps running all winter at least five days per week. Even when it was 20 degrees.

Now today would be the perfect day to stay in jammies, turn on the fireplace and watch a good movie. However, I can’t do that.

My motivation is simple. I’m in shape and while not every run is easy. Some days I feel like I’m going to die. That Paul will have to drive back and pick up my dead body from the sidewalk. Or I barely make it to our driveway and my first instinct is to fall onto the grass and moan in pain dramatically. But most days I feel really good and strong. I never want to have to “get back in shape”. No long breaks allowed. Ever. Image

We are asked quite a bit, “How did you do it so fast?” Meaning, why do neither of look remotely like our driver’s license pictures.

Running, people. Running.

Now I am all for any form of exercise. Happy to hear that people are moving on a daily basis. Anything you are doing that is getting your heart rate up, losing fat and building muscle is so important. Vital to being healthy and living longer.

However, all we ask is TRY running. No excuses. None. I had every excuse as to why I couldn’t run. They include: My boobs are too big, I will get shin splits, my ears hurt when it’s cold, I’m too big all over to run, and I don’t have time. We hear those and the famous, “I can’t because I hurt my [insert body part here] and I’ve been told I shouldn’t run.” Shouldn’t doesn’t mean you can’t.

Paul broke his ankle when he was 16. It was not set right and he probably should have had surgery years ago. Now that ankle gives him trouble and some days he does have pain. He could use that as an excuse but he chooses not to.

Okay, bottom line is this. If you are eating less and better AND not seeing results as fast as you want. START RUNNING. You can start slow like I did. We walked and then ran for maybe 30 seconds, walked, run again for 60 seconds, walked, repeat. Paul would set goals such as run to that post. I would think to myself, “I can make it that far.” It was not overwhelming or hard. I felt so good about it. By the end of the first week, we were running more than walking.

I walked for 4 months and hardly saw any results. I heard an over weight comedian say that someone told him to go for walks and he would lose weight. He laughed and said that he would have to become the Forrest Gump of walking and walk around the world 4 times to lose anything. Underlying message…run Forrest run!

Eating was scaled way back, however, we eat all day long just really small portions. The bad, white carbs like pasta, rice, potatoes and bread were eliminated for the months while I was losing. Good carbs like fruit and veggies were fine. When we eat out, we really try to share a entree. You cannot starve yourself. It messes your metabolism up.

Now that I am at my goal weight and in shape, I eat what I want. Within reason of course. If I decide to have a burger or a couple of beers, I just know I need to run the next day.

We are so passionate about this and talk about it a lot. It’s because we want others to feel this good. We want others to know how easy it is. So all we are saying is try it. You may surprise yourself and soon everyone around you.

 

I Don’t Feel Good About Myself

Paul and I were walking to the car after lunch yesterday and a very beautiful woman walked by us. I could tell by the way she carried herself that she didn’t feel confident or beautiful.  Paul noticed it too. He has been trained by his very own crazy lady on “seeing” deeper than the surface. After she was out of earshot, we both commented on what an attractive lady she is but she didn’t feel it.

I know exactly how she feels. The wanting to lose weight, get in shape and love her whole self. I could be wrong about her but I don’t think so. And that worries me. I don’t even know her and may never see her again but I’m concerned. There are so many women, beautiful women, just like her. Because not loving your outside really damages your inner self. I’m not talking about your health but your mental health. All of it is in jeopardy if you let yourself stay in that place. Image

So don’t. Get up and do something! I don’t care how old you are or how much weight you want to lose.  There is light and you can get there. You know what I’m going to say next…put on your shoes and go walk and then run.  Everyday. Mentally and physically this is so healing. Feeling sexy and fit does wonders. I told Paul the other day that had we not started running, made all these life changes and losing weight, I would certainly be on anti-depressants. Obviously, running and a healthy lifestyle cannot cure all BUT I truly believe that it helps significantly.  Neither of us have been sick in months. Both kids have had colds but miraculously we seem to run and sweat it out of us. The endorphins that running or hard core cardio produces are amazing and necessary.

Sexy, healthy moms are happy women (and have happy husbands and kids)!

 

The Mom Trap!

I don’t know what my deal is but I have started and then scraped about 4 posts so far tonight.  If I could rip the paper out of the typewriter and wad it up into a ball to throw into the overflowing trash can, I would.  If you have no idea what that last sentence means, you are very young and so shut up.

I was emailing with a new friend today about my weight loss and said “mom trap” to her.  It perfectly describes what so many of us fall into.  We do so much for our family that we put ourselves last on the list of priorities.
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Then we get trapped into the habit or lifestyle of lack of exercise, no time for ourselves, lack of alone time with husbands, frumpy dress (i.e.mom jeans) and we know what’s next.  Unhappy with our minds, bodies and spirit.

Trapped in bodies we can change but it seems overwhelming.  Don’t let it be. Change can happen but it will take some effort.  There is no magic pill or fad diet that can make us skinny. As much as we want that, get over it.  YOU have to be ready to do it.  Ready to make the time for you to do it.  Ready to make changes in your eating.  Ready?

Once you are there, the rest will fall into place.  It also does not happen overnight.  Don’t do what I did.  Stay in the mom trap for so many years that it did damage.  Not just physically but mentally.

The mom trap is serious and real.  Get out of it.  If you need help, let me know.